Can you help me understand the ins and outs of adopting a child from outside the United States – possibly from a developing country? How does the international adoption process work? I’m concerned about children around the world. Do you have any advice or suggestions?
Family Q&A
Why won’t my friend talk about her abortion? It’s obvious that she’s in bad shape emotionally, and I’d like to help her. But every time I try to broach the subject, she clams up. Do you have any insights into what she might be thinking?
As a recently remarried stepparent, what can I do to make the transition to blended family life as smooth as possible for my children, my spouse’s kids, and everyone else concerned?
How can I help my mom prepare for my upcoming departure for college? I’ll be leaving in a few weeks, and I’m afraid she won’t be able to handle it when I go. Like any good mother, she’s very protective and worries about me. But it seems to me that her worrying is getting out …
How do I deal with a chronically late spouse? He’s late for everything except work. I know I’m not responsible for this behavior, but it makes me late too when we’re going somewhere together, and that reflects poorly on my reputation. More importantly, this constant tardiness inconveniences and is disrespectful to the people we invariably …
Now that we are committed to be married, why should we wait to have sexual intercourse? How can there be anything wrong with our love-making when we’ve already promised to spend our lives together?
Should my girlfriend and I get married before I graduate from the university? We’re both mature Christians and we’ve both made a commitment to sexual purity before marriage. We’ve been dating about five months, and after much prayer, we’ve decided to get married in two years. Our parents approve of our plans, but mine disagree …
How can I convince my spouse to seek help for possible depression? I have reason to believe that he’s struggling in this area, but he refuses to admit that this might be true or to take my concerns seriously. I’m not sure if it’s pride, fear, or something else that’s standing in the way, but …
Is there anything wrong with men being stay-at-home dads? I’m currently out of work, and since my wife earns a good salary we decided that it might be best if I simply stay home and take care of the kids for a while. It seemed like a good idea in the beginning, but lately I’ve …
When should a couple start thinking about purchasing a home? My spouse and I have been talking about this possibility. We both agree that we want to own our own home — eventually — but we’re not on the same page when it comes to whether we’re ready now. Do you have any recommendations?
How should I deal with my spouse’s unkind words, mind games, and put-downs? This has been a problem for most of our marriage. I’ve never been physically hurt, but the constant verbal and emotional abuse has made my life miserable. Some of my friends say I should get a divorce, but others say I should …
How do we keep my divorced parents from spoiling our wedding? I’m engaged, but as the wedding approaches my husband-to-be and I are beginning to fear that our big day may become an occasion for major family strife. My parents haven’t been on speaking terms for years. It’s a terribly awkward situation, and it’s filling …
How long should I wait before pursuing a young lady who has recently gone through a difficult break-up with a boyfriend? I realize that she’s in a place where she needs time to deal with the hurt and loss. At the same time, I don’t want to wait around too long and possibly lose out …
How can I tell the difference between what’s appropriate and what’s not appropriate in my sexual relationship with my spouse? In particular, is there any place for sexual fantasy in a marital relationship? What’s your perspective on this subject?
How can I get my husband to help keep the house clean? I never noticed that he was a “messie” before we were married because his roommates were neat and tidy. Since I’m the one who likes the house clean and orderly, I’m the one who picks up after him and does all the housework. …
Won’t God protect me from temptation if I pray? Here’s my reason for asking. Though I’m unaware of any immediate threat to the health and well-being of my marriage, I’m still afraid that, somehow, someday, I may trip up and fall into an adulterous affair. I recently heard a man confess that this very thing …
Is it a sin to marry a non-Christian? I’m dating a woman who isn’t a believer, and my parents and friends keep quoting the Bible: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” But the context and original Greek language of that verse suggest that Paul is writing specifically about believers’ avoiding idolatry.
Is it wrong that I don’t want to have sexual intercourse as often as my husband does? Is my libido unhealthy or deficient? I try to accommodate him as often as I can, both out of love and a sense of duty, but there are times when I simply can’t respond no matter how hard …
Should we attend a family gathering where a same-sex couple are planning to be present? My sister-in-law is currently married to her partner. We love both of these ladies but have made it clear that we don’t support their lifestyle. There’s a huge family reunion next summer and my husband wants us to go. I …
Can you help us figure out how to address the matter of our living arrangements with our grown son who is currently residing with us and who recently informed us that he’s a homosexual? He now refers to himself as “gay,” is beginning to tell other people about it, and seems to view homosexuality as …
